So a Gal I know in her mid 40’s jokingly(?) called me a “bum” for not volunteering for a while after I said I volunteered to help or lead in a weekend long Food Drive. The reason why I haven’t volunteered is I am in pre-leadership training and they wanted me to pause on volunteering. So I said back, jokingly, smiling “just being biker trash”. This is AFTER she knows I’ve been driving my Harley a lot lately and has NOTHING to do with volunteering… I was trying to say something witty and funny and said instead of just chuckling at her bum comment!
Well, she took it as a stab at her (she doesn’t even have a bike, but gets rides on occasion I think). She asked if I was calling her biker trash and I said “nooooo it’s a joke my friends use all the time” right away. She walked off.
She calls me 30 minutes later and starts railing on me like she was on a mission to slam me! I said over and over it’s a joke statement a bunch of my friends used for the past 10-12 years and I was joking about me. I was calmly insistant and offered names & phone numbers to call to verify it is said jokingly all of the time!!
She of course did not want me to take me up on my proof. She tried saying another incorrect statement about me and I immediately said “Call him, Ask him”. She won’t do that either.
We did kinda like each other, have a ton of chemistry, but too many life differences for it to ever begin to think that it would work. I suspect this may have a lot something to do with it… She thought I said it because she is not going out with me but that is untrue! I even wrote in the e-mail that I have not been thinking about it & I asked someone out who said yes anyway.
I apologized over and over, saying the truth over and over but she kept building it up to hanging up on me.
So I e-mailed her and laid all of it out in writing. Ended it with “Even though truly in my heart I did not mean absolutely anything….”
So, why do some Women incorrectly launch a wrath on a guy being sincere…?
I’ve ran into similarities like this before. When someone hears a joke statement for years and uses it with someone, why does that person hold it against them?
How was I suppose to know it may mean something totally different to someone else when every time I hear it it’s in fun?
Perhaps she was looking for some slip-up from me to “slam the door” on something that even isn’t even there…?
“IF” we talk, what do I say?